Pregnancy Loss & Miscarriage Therapy in Pasadena & Online Across CA
However your loss happened, it matters. So does your grief.
You wonder what you could have done differently.
If you recently experienced a pregnancy loss, it can feel like a shock to the system. Whether the loss was a miscarriage, termination for medical reasons, abortion, fetal reduction, or stillbirth, your mind is searching for answers. You may find yourself replaying appointments, test results, and the days before the loss, wondering if something was missed that could have prevented the outcome.
You and your spouse may both be grieving, but in ways that feel out of sync. One of you may want to talk about the loss frequently, while the other avoids the topic entirely. Since the loss, it’s difficult to find your footing. You might experience stretches of time where the grief feels quieter, followed by waves of sadness that incapacitate you. Alongside the loss of your pregnancy, you’re also grieving the future you imagined.
When you lose a pregnancy, you don't just lose a due date. You lose the person you were becoming.
At the same time, seeing pregnant people or families with young babies is torture. You’re avoiding socializing and feeling disconnected, and going to your OB/GYN appointments feels like walking into an emotional landmine.
Alongside sadness, you may be experiencing guilt, shame, and anger, and in some cases, a sense of relief. You're not sleeping well. You can't concentrate at work. The loss keeps surfacing when you least expect it. Perhaps you feel a strong emotional connection to the baby and worry that moving forward or healing means letting that connection go.
You don’t have to minimize your grief or make it palatable here. I will hold all of it with you.
Your loss deserves more than being told you can “try again” or that it will “get easier with time.”
After pregnancy loss, many people feel pressure to “move on” before they’ve had a chance to fully process and integrate what happened. Therapy with me gives you a place to slow down, make sense of your experience, and work through the grief in a way that feels purposeful.
As a therapist with lived experience and extensive training in reproductive grief, I understand how destabilizing pregnancy loss can be. My goal is not to rush you toward acceptance or offer empty reassurance; it’s to help you process what happened while giving you everything you need to stay connected to yourself and what matters most.
I pull from a variety of approaches, including psychodynamic and attachment theory, feminist and liberation psychology, CBT, ACT, parts work, and EMDR, to help you make sense of the grief, work through what still feels unresolved, and rebuild trust in yourself and your body. Whatever we work on, it's tailored to you, including what this loss has stirred up outside of the loss itself. Grief this significant doesn't stay in one place–it shows up in your relationships, your work, your sense of who you are–and therapy with me will meet it everywhere it lands.
Specialized therapy for pregnancy loss can help you:
Feel less overwhelmed by grief - Build practical coping tools and identify what makes the grief spike, so it stops taking you by surprise.
Make sense of what you're feeling - Understand the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that come with loss instead of wondering if what you're experiencing is normal.
Reclaim moments that aren't about the loss - Cultivate the capacity to notice other emotions when they show up, without it meaning you've moved on or stopped caring.
Address what still replays - Work through the medical experiences, decisions, or moments during the loss itself that keep surfacing uninvited.
Make meaning without rushing it - Integrate what happened into your reproductive story, honor what this pregnancy meant, and find your way back toward a future you can imagine.
Give yourself room to grieve and the support to find your footing again.
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Pregnancy loss is a significant and valid loss, regardless of when or how it occurred. You may be struggling with grief that feels invisible or minimized by others, and therapy provides a place where your experience can be acknowledged and processed without judgment. Therapy for pregnancy loss is for anyone who feels emotionally impacted, including partners and medical providers.
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Yes. For some couples, experiencing a loss makes them feel closer while for others it feels like a wedge driven between them. Either way, you and your partner are navigating grief differently and processing the loss together is one way of feeling less alone. If you’re doing individual therapy with me, there is also the option for your spouse to join us for a session to support your treatment goals.
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Grief therapy does involve revisiting painful experiences, but it happens gradually and at a pace that feels manageable. I find that many loss clients want the opportunity to talk about their loss because they’re not doing it anywhere else so honestly and explicitly. Additionally, when clinically appropriate, we can use EMDR therapy in which traumatic memories can be processed with minimal verbal detail about the event.
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Therapy cannot erase the loss, bring your baby back, or remove grief entirely. What it can do is help you process what happened so the grief no longer feels overwhelming, shameful, and debilitating. Many people find that therapy helps them find a new equilibrium while still honoring the significance of the loss, and lay the groundwork for future pregnancies (if that’s what is desired).
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